How to keep going after you lose your loved one.

Hello guys,

Hope you all are doing good. I never thought I'd ever write or talk on this topic but since I personally experienced a loss & was searching some article to take help to get out if this. I thought I should share the same with you all.

Since March 2020, we are facing a very big challenge i.e Covid Virus. It's bad & a bit scary too.

My all prayers to god , hope this virus end soon or atleast we find the vaccines.

Till than Please focus on self care and social distancing , each one of you is important & may everyone be safe & healthy.

I know how badly we all want to go back to our normal lives that was there before covid'19.

This article is only for those who have lost their loved ones , may be during this Covid period or by any other reason. Rest , you guys can avoid reading further. As I don't intend you to think much on this topic.

So, few days ago, I lost my favourite Mama(uncle) due to an attack. He was not too old & too soon to go.

We've had sleepless nights after that.

But somehow, we have to go on .. Life is only thing that God decides when would it end. Its sad that we are so helpless when it comes to death.

I have lost my Bestest friend few years back, my favourite cousin afterwards & this time my uncle.

Its a nightmare when we go through such events. But somehow we need to understand & handle ourselves to cope with the situation.

There are few things that can help you comfort yourself may be for a while , although the pain , I understand would be unmeasurable .

"Mom, why the best people die?"

"When you're in a garden, which flowers do you pick?"

"The most beautiful ones."

- so beautifully explained.

One thing we will find in Bhagavad Gita is - "there was never a time that You and I did not exist." Krishna Bhagvan says that wise beings should not grieve for the living or death. This is because the same person has died earlier and will die again in the future. What's really important is the consciousness and that will never die.

If there is anything that will help you get over the death of a loved one is -

1) Meditation-

This will help you open emotional blocks within you.

2)Write Things down-

Write about the wonderful moments you spent with your loved one. Thank God that you got this much time with them & so many wonderful moments together.

3)Understand-

Krishna bhagvan says in Bhagavad Gita , "Wherever your loved one is now, understand that she/he is happy "

Know that your loved one is in safe hands.

4)Open up-

Open up & talk about your emotions, but only when you are ready. Its very important that you let out what is going inside you. Allow your friends & relatives to be there for you.

5)Give yourself time & space-

You may face different kinds of emotions like grief , anger etc. allow yourself to be vulnerable . You may or may not take time to come out of this, just try to understand yourself & don't be harsh on self for any reason.

6)Take help of resources-

Reading book, reading article, listening things out from internet will help you comfort yourself. Go ahead & find out how to re-live your life without the one you love.

7)Acceptance-

After a certain time, there comes an acceptance within that your loved one is happy where he/she is . Happily pray god to take care of that soul & start living your life. Do what you love. Plan to go out in open air & spend time with nature. Nature is a good healer.

8)Spend time for gratitude-

Thank God each day for the life you have , for the people you have, for the things you have, for each and everything.

Live each day. Pray each day. Love each day.

Hope I was of any help to you. Stay blessed . Take care.